We went to Bengi's for dinner, games and a lot of fun and family LOVE.
Mom was very glad that she went. She loves all of her grandkids. I saw her laughing when we were playing the headband game. First time in a long time that I know that she has had a Christmas party that was so much fun.
Friday, December 30, 2011
Wednesday, December 21, 2011
Mom's Christmas Spirit......
I worked all day yesterday making some cookies and fudge. Bagged, labeled them and then put them in reusable plastic containers, put bows and ribbons on them.
Today we went to hand them out to mom's friends. Mom said "Do I have to go?" I told her "Yes you have to carry the basket". So I loaded her up in the wheel chair with a big basket of goodies on her lap. Now she complained but she enjoyed it a lot more than she thought she was going to. We visited with each one of her friends. It was fun.
Tonight we went to church to listen to the choir put on a "Cantata". It was really beautiful music. She was glad that we went to that also. It takes her a long time to get in and out of the car, but she always enjoys it.
Just trying to get her in the Christmas spirit.
Today we went to hand them out to mom's friends. Mom said "Do I have to go?" I told her "Yes you have to carry the basket". So I loaded her up in the wheel chair with a big basket of goodies on her lap. Now she complained but she enjoyed it a lot more than she thought she was going to. We visited with each one of her friends. It was fun.
Tonight we went to church to listen to the choir put on a "Cantata". It was really beautiful music. She was glad that we went to that also. It takes her a long time to get in and out of the car, but she always enjoys it.
Just trying to get her in the Christmas spirit.
Tuesday, December 20, 2011
Mom's eating
Yesterday mom didn't get up till 9 am and then she had a really big bowl of cheerios with strawberries.
Monday was cleaning day so we have to be gone for a little longer. We usually leave a little later too, but she wasn't hungry so we did our errands. By the time we got ready to eat it was pouring down rain and she didn't want to get out of the car so we went to Sonic. We never go to Sonic, but she ordered a hamburger, onion rings. She ate all of the lunch and it was a BIG lunch. Then she wanted to go to Starbucks to get coffee. So when I was getting ready to go in she asked me if they still had those Cranberry Blitz's. So I bought her one of those and she ate the whole thing.
My mom has a good appetite. She has gained 6 pounds, but she doesn't get much exercise to work it off.
Monday was cleaning day so we have to be gone for a little longer. We usually leave a little later too, but she wasn't hungry so we did our errands. By the time we got ready to eat it was pouring down rain and she didn't want to get out of the car so we went to Sonic. We never go to Sonic, but she ordered a hamburger, onion rings. She ate all of the lunch and it was a BIG lunch. Then she wanted to go to Starbucks to get coffee. So when I was getting ready to go in she asked me if they still had those Cranberry Blitz's. So I bought her one of those and she ate the whole thing.
My mom has a good appetite. She has gained 6 pounds, but she doesn't get much exercise to work it off.
Saturday, December 17, 2011
Washing her clothes
Most of the time I wash mom's clothes. But today she got up and she got them all in the washer. But about 7:00 pm she decided that she had forgot to put them in the dryer.
She couldn't get the door open, so I went in to help. She managed to get the clothes in the dryer. Then she asked for help again, she couldn't get the dryer to come on. The door to the dryer was standing wide open and she was twisting the knob all around. How do you gracefully tell her that the door is open.
When I told her that she needs to shut the door before it will come on. She says that she never had to before. So we shut the door, she twisted the Knob to permanent press and pushed the button and guess what? it started right up.
She couldn't get the door open, so I went in to help. She managed to get the clothes in the dryer. Then she asked for help again, she couldn't get the dryer to come on. The door to the dryer was standing wide open and she was twisting the knob all around. How do you gracefully tell her that the door is open.
When I told her that she needs to shut the door before it will come on. She says that she never had to before. So we shut the door, she twisted the Knob to permanent press and pushed the button and guess what? it started right up.
Thursday, December 15, 2011
Christmas
On the way to Edmond to go to Mom's great-grandson's Christmas program. She was telling me about when her 2 sisters worked as Telephone operators in Enid.
Her dad would drive from Waukomis to Enid to pick them up so that they would be home for breakfast at 8 am. Her mom always had a great big breakfast on Christmas Morning and opened their presents.
Her dad would drive from Waukomis to Enid to pick them up so that they would be home for breakfast at 8 am. Her mom always had a great big breakfast on Christmas Morning and opened their presents.
Wednesday, December 14, 2011
Carrot Cake
I stopped at McAlister's to bring mom her broccoli cheese soup. I also brought a croissant chicken salad sandwich to split. For desert I got mom a piece of carrot cake. It was a BIG piece of 3 layer cake. She ate the whole thing. I thought that she would save it and eat it later. She must have been really hungry.
Saturday, December 10, 2011
Time to take Pills
Put a roast in the crock pot this morning. Sitting at the table eating super at about 6 pm and mom asked if it was OK to take her pills at this time. She has always waited till 8 pm to take her pills. I never really thought anything about it. I told her that there was no particular time that she takes her pills, and that I usually take mine with supper. She looks down at the 7 day pill organizer in front of her and points to the row of the PM pills. She says "It says right here to take the pills between 8 and 10." I never realized until that moment that is why she always took her pills at 8 pm.
Jimmy's Egg
Saturday mom gets her hair done. On the way back upstairs we stopped and asked Beth if she wanted to go with us to lunch. We told her we would be ready in an hour.
I don't know who enjoyed it more Mom or Beth. Food was good as usual and mom got to pay for lunch, Beth didn't want her to, but we got to get the ticket first.
We will do it again.
I don't know who enjoyed it more Mom or Beth. Food was good as usual and mom got to pay for lunch, Beth didn't want her to, but we got to get the ticket first.
We will do it again.
Friday, December 9, 2011
Forgot MOM
Today we went to social security office. Mom lost her social security card
She keeps saying that they changed her SS# when dad died. I think she has her Medicare and SS mixed up
So we got to SS office we got number 47 and waited because there was just 1 person at the 3 windows About 15 minutes the waiting room was full not one chair was empty. The door opened to the back office and she called out #46 but no one got up so she said #47 I said that's us and I got up and started to the back and instantly remembered I didn't get mom. I turned to get he and EVERYBODY was laughing. I was so embarrassed. I only did this on other time when we were at Golden Oaks. We came down the elevator and I saw a nurse and walked out and started to talk to her but we both turned and saw mom still in elevator. Jennifer gave me a hard time for weeks. OH wait she is still giving me a hard time.
She keeps saying that they changed her SS# when dad died. I think she has her Medicare and SS mixed up
So we got to SS office we got number 47 and waited because there was just 1 person at the 3 windows About 15 minutes the waiting room was full not one chair was empty. The door opened to the back office and she called out #46 but no one got up so she said #47 I said that's us and I got up and started to the back and instantly remembered I didn't get mom. I turned to get he and EVERYBODY was laughing. I was so embarrassed. I only did this on other time when we were at Golden Oaks. We came down the elevator and I saw a nurse and walked out and started to talk to her but we both turned and saw mom still in elevator. Jennifer gave me a hard time for weeks. OH wait she is still giving me a hard time.
Social Security Card
Mom has lost her Social Security Card so we are off the the Social Security Office to apply for a new card.
Memory Loss
Dealing with a parents memory loss will teach you empathy and compassion.
It makes you want to remember all the good times that you had with your parent.
It's making new memories that you will treasure.
Embrace every moment you have with your mom or dad.
It makes you want to remember all the good times that you had with your parent.
It's making new memories that you will treasure.
Embrace every moment you have with your mom or dad.
Sunday, December 4, 2011
Getting ready for Church
I went to check on mom to see if she was ready for church. She is sitting in her walker with shirt not pulled down and pants at her ankles. She said she can't get dressed. So I helped and then went back to finish. She got to her recliner to put on her shoes.
As I was helping get mom in her wheel chair. She asked me "How much longer are you going to have to do this?". I told her "For as long as it takes"
I then sit down in front if her and told her "As long as you can go to the bathroom by yourself. When as you lose control of that function, then we are going to have to get some help" That made her laugh and she agreed.
As I was helping get mom in her wheel chair. She asked me "How much longer are you going to have to do this?". I told her "For as long as it takes"
I then sit down in front if her and told her "As long as you can go to the bathroom by yourself. When as you lose control of that function, then we are going to have to get some help" That made her laugh and she agreed.
Saturday, December 3, 2011
I've Learned...
The following is attributed to Andy Rooney of the 60 Minutes television program. He offers great advice and in less than 100 words sums up caregiving like nothing we have seen before. Here is what he reportedly said:
I've learned...
That being kind is more important than being right.
That I can always pray for someone when I don't have the strength to help him/her in some other way.
That sometimes all a person needs is a hand to hold and a heart to understand.
That under everyone's hard shell is someone who wants to be appreciated and loved.
That the Lord didn't do it all in one day. What makes me think I can?
That to ignore the facts does not change the facts.
That I can't choose how I feel, but I can choose what I do about it.
I've learned...
That being kind is more important than being right.
That I can always pray for someone when I don't have the strength to help him/her in some other way.
That sometimes all a person needs is a hand to hold and a heart to understand.
That under everyone's hard shell is someone who wants to be appreciated and loved.
That the Lord didn't do it all in one day. What makes me think I can?
That to ignore the facts does not change the facts.
That I can't choose how I feel, but I can choose what I do about it.
Thursday, December 1, 2011
Post Office Box
I come back to Enid and asked mom how she had been. She said she had a horrible time. She went down to get the mail and they moved the mail box. She had a time trying to find the mailbox.
I went to check and the mailbox was still in the same spot.
Not sure what she was thinking. She gets so confused.
I went to check and the mailbox was still in the same spot.
Not sure what she was thinking. She gets so confused.
Wednesday, November 23, 2011
Dr Ross check up
Mom had a 3:15 appointment with Dr Ross. She really likes her. She is so sweet and patient with mom. We discussed so much and Kimi went over her meds. I had blood test done and faxed to Dr Ross prior to her appointment, so they had all the labs to better diagnosis her till next time.
Monday, November 7, 2011
Dr Guniganti
Mom had check up appointment with Dr Guniganti. Dr. G said that she had no blood clots in her leg and that the leaky valve in her heart has not changed.
We went to Garber for the twins, Basketball game. She really enjoyed the game.
Later that night when she was getting ready for bed she lost her balance and hit her head on the night stand. We took her down to the nurse and it was just superficial and it stopped bleeding pretty fast. NO trip to the emergency room tonight
We went to Garber for the twins, Basketball game. She really enjoyed the game.
Later that night when she was getting ready for bed she lost her balance and hit her head on the night stand. We took her down to the nurse and it was just superficial and it stopped bleeding pretty fast. NO trip to the emergency room tonight
Friday, October 28, 2011
Mom Fell
Mom fell again today. Her knees just give out and she falls. Then I call them downstairs and they come up and help me pick her up.
Tuesday, October 25, 2011
Brady's Birthday
We headed to Texas to be with Brady on his 6th birthday. We stayed at a hotel, but enjoyed the kids very much. Mom wanted to go shopping at Belk. She loves that store. She bought shoes and had a very good time.
The morning that we were leaving she feel coming out of the bathroom. I knew that if I called the desk they would call an ambulance. Falling on their property would be not good, so I called Kati and she sent her police officer husband. We got her back up in the chair and was off for home.
She did really good on the trip.
The morning that we were leaving she feel coming out of the bathroom. I knew that if I called the desk they would call an ambulance. Falling on their property would be not good, so I called Kati and she sent her police officer husband. We got her back up in the chair and was off for home.
She did really good on the trip.
Sunday, October 16, 2011
Cade's Birthday
After church we went to Oklahoma City and a great lunch at Panera and then we went to Cade's Captain America 5th Birthday Party.
Monday, October 10, 2011
Look Closer, See Me
Years ago when an old woman died in the geriatric ward of a small hospital in Scotland, it was believed she had nothing left of any value. Later, when nurses were going through her belongings, they discovered this poem. Today, the woman who authored it is known as "Anonymous." We hope you enjoy this simple yet eloquent reminder.
What do you see, people, what do you see?
What are you thinking, when you look at me?
A crabby old woman, not very wise.
Uncertain of habit, with far-away eyes,
Who dribbles her food and makes no reply.
When you say in a loud voice, "I do wish you'd try!"
Who seems not to notice the things that you do.
And forever is losing a stocking or shoe.
Who, unresisting or not, lets you do as you will.
With bathing and feeding, the long day to fill.
Is that what you're thinking, is that what you see?
Then open your eyes--you're not looking at me.
I'll tell you who I am as I sit here so still!
As I rise at your bidding, as I eat at your will.
I'm a small child of 10 with a father and mother,
Brothers and sisters, who loved one another.
A young girl of 16 with wings on her feet,
dreaming that soon now a lover she'll meet.
A bride soon at 20 -- my heart gives a leap,
Remembering the vows that I promised to keep.
At 25 now I have young of my own
Who need me to build a secure, happy home.
A woman of 30, my young now grow fast,
Bound to each other with ties that should last.
At 40, my young sons have grown and are gone,
But my man's beside me to see I don't mourn.
At 50, once more babies play around my knee,
Again we know children, my loved one and me.
Dark days are upon me, my husband is dead,
I look at the future, I shudder with dread.
For my young are all rearing young of their own.
And I think of the years and the love that I've known.
I'm an old woman now and nature is cruel,
'Tis her jest to make old age look like a fool.
The body is crumbled, grace and vigor depart.
There is now a stone where I once had a heart.
But inside this old carcass a young girl still dwells,
And now and again my battered heart swells.
I remember the joy, I remember the pain,
And I'm loving and living life over again.
I think of the years--all too few, gone too fast--
And accept the stark fact that nothing can last.
So open your eyes, people, open and see,
Not a crabby old woman--LOOK CLOSER, SEE ME!
The opportunity each of us has is to see, enjoy and support each person, respecting who he or she is.
What do you see, people, what do you see?
What are you thinking, when you look at me?
A crabby old woman, not very wise.
Uncertain of habit, with far-away eyes,
Who dribbles her food and makes no reply.
When you say in a loud voice, "I do wish you'd try!"
Who seems not to notice the things that you do.
And forever is losing a stocking or shoe.
Who, unresisting or not, lets you do as you will.
With bathing and feeding, the long day to fill.
Is that what you're thinking, is that what you see?
Then open your eyes--you're not looking at me.
I'll tell you who I am as I sit here so still!
As I rise at your bidding, as I eat at your will.
I'm a small child of 10 with a father and mother,
Brothers and sisters, who loved one another.
A young girl of 16 with wings on her feet,
dreaming that soon now a lover she'll meet.
A bride soon at 20 -- my heart gives a leap,
Remembering the vows that I promised to keep.
At 25 now I have young of my own
Who need me to build a secure, happy home.
A woman of 30, my young now grow fast,
Bound to each other with ties that should last.
At 40, my young sons have grown and are gone,
But my man's beside me to see I don't mourn.
At 50, once more babies play around my knee,
Again we know children, my loved one and me.
Dark days are upon me, my husband is dead,
I look at the future, I shudder with dread.
For my young are all rearing young of their own.
And I think of the years and the love that I've known.
I'm an old woman now and nature is cruel,
'Tis her jest to make old age look like a fool.
The body is crumbled, grace and vigor depart.
There is now a stone where I once had a heart.
But inside this old carcass a young girl still dwells,
And now and again my battered heart swells.
I remember the joy, I remember the pain,
And I'm loving and living life over again.
I think of the years--all too few, gone too fast--
And accept the stark fact that nothing can last.
So open your eyes, people, open and see,
Not a crabby old woman--LOOK CLOSER, SEE ME!
The opportunity each of us has is to see, enjoy and support each person, respecting who he or she is.
Tuesday, October 4, 2011
Knitting
Mom knitted all of her life. Making sweaters, scarves, dish rags, but her most famous thing of all were her baby booties and caps. She never needed a pattern, she knew it by heart. Every brand new baby in the Drummond area got a pair of mom's knitted booties. Being her daughter I got more than 1 pair and by the time I had 3 girls, I had quite a collection.
Mom tried to knit for the 15th great-grandchild. She ripped out more than she knitted. She stopped and tried to knit a dish rag. She couldn't knit. Her hands were shaking so bad, then she would go to sleep and drop stitches. I watched the frustration on her face.
She had me print out the pattern and she tried by reading the stitches from the pattern.
She has given up on knitting. She just does crossword puzzles all day when she is not sleeping.
Mom tried to knit for the 15th great-grandchild. She ripped out more than she knitted. She stopped and tried to knit a dish rag. She couldn't knit. Her hands were shaking so bad, then she would go to sleep and drop stitches. I watched the frustration on her face.
She had me print out the pattern and she tried by reading the stitches from the pattern.
She has given up on knitting. She just does crossword puzzles all day when she is not sleeping.
Saturday, September 10, 2011
Camden's Birthday
I went to OKlahoma City to Camden's 2nd birthday. We had just moved mom to skilled Nursing at Golden Oaks Village on Thursday and they wouldn't let her out for that length of time. Mom really hated to miss that party.
Wednesday, August 31, 2011
Wednesday 31st of Aug
Dr. Short said that her Hemoglobin was back up to 9.5 and that we wont do another blood transfer
Discharge lady came and discussed moving to GOV on Monday but would talk with Rose and see if we could do it before
Discharge lady came and discussed moving to GOV on Monday but would talk with Rose and see if we could do it before
Tuesday, August 30, 2011
Tuesday 30th of Aug
morning
Dr ViJay ordered a blood transfusion because Hemoglobin was 8.4
Tim was with mom and she was getting her blood transfusion.
Mom had to go to the bathroom, so Tim decided to leave.
She had started to shake then. UNCONTROLLABLE
1 hour into the blood transfusion at a rate of 100 - she had a reaction to the blood transfusion.
ALL the nurses came in and got the blood stopped. She was still shaking. 99.8 temperature.
Couldn't get an oxygen read on her she was shaking so bad.
Started giving her oxygen, Dr. Short said to give her Tylenol by mouth and Benedryl interveniously
They left and mom started throwing up.
the Benedryl kicked in and she went to sleep.
noon
They come to move her down to Skilled nursing. They started to help her up and she says "I'm peeeeing" The sit her down, try again same thing.
They went to get a diaper. Changed her gown.
The lab come in to take blood to see why she had a reaction to the transfusion. So they put her back in bed.
They finished, girls came back got her in her diaper and we are now in a MUCH smaller room.
She is again sleeping.
Evening
Mom had to go to bathroom and nurses aide Carol came in and didn't give mom the walker to hang on to and just pulled her up and expected her to walk
She then put her back on the bed and was putting on her diaper and rolling her around and hurting her. Mom was crying out
all of the nurses on 3 put the diaper on while standing up from the commode
Nurses aide Carol was making mom move to fast for her little shaky legs,and didn't offer the walker for support - remember she just had a reaction to the blood transfusion.
Again she had to go and Carol and Samantha came in. Carol was again very hasty and took mom's diaper off before she got up and mom urinated on the bed.
Then Carol was upset that she had to remake the bed. Which was her fault for taking off the diaper too soon.
Then she wasn't quite to the portable commode and she pushed her over and down to sit down.
Carol was very rough in wiping Mom
Then there was putting on the diaper
Carol was going to put her back on the bed and I said put the back of the diaper on before you sit her down.
So I went out and told the nurse that the nurses aide Carol was not to come back in my mom's room.
Nurse said that she was new and they were just getting used to her or something on that line
I said "That has nothing to do with me or mom, and my mom was not going to be treated that way"
Dr ViJay ordered a blood transfusion because Hemoglobin was 8.4
Tim was with mom and she was getting her blood transfusion.
Mom had to go to the bathroom, so Tim decided to leave.
She had started to shake then. UNCONTROLLABLE
1 hour into the blood transfusion at a rate of 100 - she had a reaction to the blood transfusion.
ALL the nurses came in and got the blood stopped. She was still shaking. 99.8 temperature.
Couldn't get an oxygen read on her she was shaking so bad.
Started giving her oxygen, Dr. Short said to give her Tylenol by mouth and Benedryl interveniously
They left and mom started throwing up.
the Benedryl kicked in and she went to sleep.
noon
They come to move her down to Skilled nursing. They started to help her up and she says "I'm peeeeing" The sit her down, try again same thing.
They went to get a diaper. Changed her gown.
The lab come in to take blood to see why she had a reaction to the transfusion. So they put her back in bed.
They finished, girls came back got her in her diaper and we are now in a MUCH smaller room.
She is again sleeping.
Evening
Mom had to go to bathroom and nurses aide Carol came in and didn't give mom the walker to hang on to and just pulled her up and expected her to walk
She then put her back on the bed and was putting on her diaper and rolling her around and hurting her. Mom was crying out
all of the nurses on 3 put the diaper on while standing up from the commode
Nurses aide Carol was making mom move to fast for her little shaky legs,and didn't offer the walker for support - remember she just had a reaction to the blood transfusion.
Again she had to go and Carol and Samantha came in. Carol was again very hasty and took mom's diaper off before she got up and mom urinated on the bed.
Then Carol was upset that she had to remake the bed. Which was her fault for taking off the diaper too soon.
Then she wasn't quite to the portable commode and she pushed her over and down to sit down.
Carol was very rough in wiping Mom
Then there was putting on the diaper
Carol was going to put her back on the bed and I said put the back of the diaper on before you sit her down.
So I went out and told the nurse that the nurses aide Carol was not to come back in my mom's room.
Nurse said that she was new and they were just getting used to her or something on that line
I said "That has nothing to do with me or mom, and my mom was not going to be treated that way"
Mom @ Bass August 2011
Sent: Tuesday, August 30, 2011 10:02 PM
Jodean Chesnut has not had a very good day at all.
Dr ViJay order mom a blood transfusion. Her hemoglobin was 8.4
I left for a little bit and when I returned Tim, my brother, was with mom and she was getting her blood transfusion.
Mom had to go to the bathroom, her fever went up to 99.8.
She had started to shake then. UNCONTROLLABLE
1 hour of blood at a rate of 100, into the blood transfusion she had a reaction to the blood transfusion.
The nurses came in and got the blood transfusion stopped. She was still shaking.
Couldn't get an oxygen reading on her she was shaking so bad.
Started giving her oxygen, Dr. Short said to give her Tylenol by mouth and Benedryl intravenously
Nurses left the room and mom started throwing up.
The Benedryl kicked in and she went to sleep.
They moved Jodean down to Skilled Nursing and Dr Short said she would be here for a week.
I have had trouble with a nurses aide and had to refuse to let her back in the room.
She seems weaker again, and her demeanor is just not very good at all.
I am so wishing I would have brought her to OKC now.
Kathi
Jodean Chesnut has not had a very good day at all.
Dr ViJay order mom a blood transfusion. Her hemoglobin was 8.4
I left for a little bit and when I returned Tim, my brother, was with mom and she was getting her blood transfusion.
Mom had to go to the bathroom, her fever went up to 99.8.
She had started to shake then. UNCONTROLLABLE
1 hour of blood at a rate of 100, into the blood transfusion she had a reaction to the blood transfusion.
The nurses came in and got the blood transfusion stopped. She was still shaking.
Couldn't get an oxygen reading on her she was shaking so bad.
Started giving her oxygen, Dr. Short said to give her Tylenol by mouth and Benedryl intravenously
Nurses left the room and mom started throwing up.
The Benedryl kicked in and she went to sleep.
They moved Jodean down to Skilled Nursing and Dr Short said she would be here for a week.
I have had trouble with a nurses aide and had to refuse to let her back in the room.
She seems weaker again, and her demeanor is just not very good at all.
I am so wishing I would have brought her to OKC now.
Kathi
Monday, August 29, 2011
Monday 29th of Aug
morning
They came and start walking her to the door. She started P....ing every where.
They turned her around, put her on the porta pot
Brought in some diapers for next time.
She has been bawling all night.
Health wise mom is doing a little better every blood test.
Physically mom is SOOOO weak.
Mentally so damn depressed she is just one big negative word after another.
night
She was getting up about every 1/2 hour to go to the bathroom.
She got diaharia
They came and start walking her to the door. She started P....ing every where.
They turned her around, put her on the porta pot
Brought in some diapers for next time.
She has been bawling all night.
Health wise mom is doing a little better every blood test.
Physically mom is SOOOO weak.
Mentally so damn depressed she is just one big negative word after another.
night
She was getting up about every 1/2 hour to go to the bathroom.
She got diaharia
Sunday, August 28, 2011
Saturday, August 27, 2011
Saturday 27th of Aug
another 2 hours we made it to a room.
Low on potassium
Urinary tract infection
Creatin was low ???
kidney failure
The Dr Short came in and said that Mom's kidney functions are a little better this morning. She will have to do some therapy and liquids for a while.
I have requested the labs for Daughter and Dr. Ross in OKC
Low on potassium
Urinary tract infection
Creatin was low ???
kidney failure
The Dr Short came in and said that Mom's kidney functions are a little better this morning. She will have to do some therapy and liquids for a while.
I have requested the labs for Daughter and Dr. Ross in OKC
Friday, August 26, 2011
Friday 26th of Aug
morning
So I slept till 8:30 then heard mom, she fell again in the bathroom.
Feed her breakfast and she had to go to bathroom, so I convinced her she needed a shower. So I have her in the shower.
I called for help and Ty and Chrystal came up to help get her up. Then Shane the nurse came up and we decided she should go to hospital
The Golden Oaks Village said that they could take labs.
eMailed a Lab order to Dr Karen Ross
They just need an order.
Shane Kavanaugh is the DON in the Home Health department at GOV.
the fax number 580-249-2689
Labs got back and Karen Called me at 5pm said to take her to hospital
UN 75 - kidney failure
Creatnine 3.1
Potassium 2.8
CK elevated 617
So we brought her back to Hospital. They were not going to keep her. They were going to send her home with a fluid diet and recheck her in the morning.
4 hours in the ER, and her not being able to walk, I WAS NOT TAKING HER HOME. Daughter was texting that she needed an IV and need antibiotics.
So I slept till 8:30 then heard mom, she fell again in the bathroom.
Feed her breakfast and she had to go to bathroom, so I convinced her she needed a shower. So I have her in the shower.
I called for help and Ty and Chrystal came up to help get her up. Then Shane the nurse came up and we decided she should go to hospital
The Golden Oaks Village said that they could take labs.
eMailed a Lab order to Dr Karen Ross
They just need an order.
Shane Kavanaugh is the DON in the Home Health department at GOV.
the fax number 580-249-2689
Labs got back and Karen Called me at 5pm said to take her to hospital
UN 75 - kidney failure
Creatnine 3.1
Potassium 2.8
CK elevated 617
So we brought her back to Hospital. They were not going to keep her. They were going to send her home with a fluid diet and recheck her in the morning.
4 hours in the ER, and her not being able to walk, I WAS NOT TAKING HER HOME. Daughter was texting that she needed an IV and need antibiotics.
Thursday, August 25, 2011
Thursday 25th of Aug
Morning
THIS morning I got up to check on her at 7 am. I gave her a whistle if she needed me in the night.
She was in the bathroom. She made it from the bed to the bathroom on her own.
She could not get up off the toilet. So I helped her into the wheel chair.
Wheeled her to the kitchen table. She would not eat breakfast. I finally fixed her an English muffin and she ate just about half.
She then fell asleep so I asked if she wanted to move to her chair. We got her in the chair, but she hasn't moved since.
She refused to go to Therapy this morning. I called and spoke with Don at therapy. He said that isn't the woman that was in here on Tuesday.
She is very depressed, My dad used to say "Why can't I just die" Well she said that this morning. She HATES that I have to wait on her. I am just really lost as what to do.
Evening
She sit in the recliner all day. She always goes to bed at 8:30 pm. 9:30 pm at the latest.
She just kept knitting and saying she was going to go to bed.
I finally went to bed about 11:30 pm.
At 2:00 am, I heard her, she had been trying to get out of her chair since 1:00 am
I got her in the wheel chair and got her in the bathroom, it was too late, but she need to change or clothes
She couldn't stand up so I told her I was going to call down stairs and get someone to come up and help her.
By the time help had come she had slid out of her wheel chair and was on the floor. Nurses here are not supposed
to lift. So they had to call a non-emgerency fire department to come and get her up off the floor.
So at 2:30 am I had 3 firemen, 2 nurses and a security guard in here trying to get her up.
Nurses got her clothes changed and got her in bed.
It's now it's 3:26 am and I am wide awake. Not knowing what my next step is.
Mom keeps trying so hard
THIS morning I got up to check on her at 7 am. I gave her a whistle if she needed me in the night.
She was in the bathroom. She made it from the bed to the bathroom on her own.
She could not get up off the toilet. So I helped her into the wheel chair.
Wheeled her to the kitchen table. She would not eat breakfast. I finally fixed her an English muffin and she ate just about half.
She then fell asleep so I asked if she wanted to move to her chair. We got her in the chair, but she hasn't moved since.
She refused to go to Therapy this morning. I called and spoke with Don at therapy. He said that isn't the woman that was in here on Tuesday.
She is very depressed, My dad used to say "Why can't I just die" Well she said that this morning. She HATES that I have to wait on her. I am just really lost as what to do.
Evening
She sit in the recliner all day. She always goes to bed at 8:30 pm. 9:30 pm at the latest.
She just kept knitting and saying she was going to go to bed.
I finally went to bed about 11:30 pm.
At 2:00 am, I heard her, she had been trying to get out of her chair since 1:00 am
I got her in the wheel chair and got her in the bathroom, it was too late, but she need to change or clothes
She couldn't stand up so I told her I was going to call down stairs and get someone to come up and help her.
By the time help had come she had slid out of her wheel chair and was on the floor. Nurses here are not supposed
to lift. So they had to call a non-emgerency fire department to come and get her up off the floor.
So at 2:30 am I had 3 firemen, 2 nurses and a security guard in here trying to get her up.
Nurses got her clothes changed and got her in bed.
It's now it's 3:26 am and I am wide awake. Not knowing what my next step is.
Mom keeps trying so hard
Wednesday, August 24, 2011
Mom's 1st Fall
Mom had been sleeping late. The retirement center calls every morning to check on the residents in independent living. They had already called and mom was asleep so I answered and pushed the #1 button to let them know that we were all right.
Mom was still sleeping and I would go and check on her periodically. She got up to go to the bathroom and lost her balance and slid down the door, hitting her head on the sink cabinet. She couldn’t get up. She didn’t have her emergency button. She would have stayed there all day until the night call would come in at 5 pm. Then there is no telling what she would have done. She didn’t hurt anything, just a bump on her head.
I am just so thankful that I was with her to call and get some help to get her up.
We spent the whole day at the hospital making sure that was nothing broke.
Mom was still sleeping and I would go and check on her periodically. She got up to go to the bathroom and lost her balance and slid down the door, hitting her head on the sink cabinet. She couldn’t get up. She didn’t have her emergency button. She would have stayed there all day until the night call would come in at 5 pm. Then there is no telling what she would have done. She didn’t hurt anything, just a bump on her head.
I am just so thankful that I was with her to call and get some help to get her up.
We spent the whole day at the hospital making sure that was nothing broke.
Wednesday 24th of Aug
Morning
9 oClock I went to check on her, she was laying on the bed with one leg off the bed. She said she was just really tired.
I told her she didn't have to get up - she said she had to go to bathroom
she got up and walked to bathroom - then I heard her say that she was going to fall.
I rushed back in there to find her on the floor. I called for help and a nurse came up and put her in a chair.
Noon
went to Emergency room
they checked for broken bones and bruises sent me home with instructions for ice for bruises
1 they did not check her blood for WHY she fell
2 they did not check her Urine for WHY she fell
I went and purchased a wheel chair to help get her around
She just cannot walk, her knees will not work. She has no upper arm strength to lift her self up.
I got her to talk a shower.
She ate good and then slept in her chair until 10:30 and she went to bed
Gave her a whistle so if she needs me.
9 oClock I went to check on her, she was laying on the bed with one leg off the bed. She said she was just really tired.
I told her she didn't have to get up - she said she had to go to bathroom
she got up and walked to bathroom - then I heard her say that she was going to fall.
I rushed back in there to find her on the floor. I called for help and a nurse came up and put her in a chair.
Noon
went to Emergency room
they checked for broken bones and bruises sent me home with instructions for ice for bruises
1 they did not check her blood for WHY she fell
2 they did not check her Urine for WHY she fell
I went and purchased a wheel chair to help get her around
She just cannot walk, her knees will not work. She has no upper arm strength to lift her self up.
I got her to talk a shower.
She ate good and then slept in her chair until 10:30 and she went to bed
Gave her a whistle so if she needs me.
Tuesday, August 23, 2011
Monday, August 8, 2011
Electricity Power Outage
A big storm went thru the Enid weather and all the electric was out, so many lines were down that they said it would be days before it would be back on. 100 degree weather, I could not leave my mom in that heat and I couldn't work with out electricity. So we packed up and went to Kimi's. Stayed till Thursday.
Mom had an orthopedic appointment on Thursday 11th, They showed me the eXray's of her knee and shoulders. The doctor said that it would be a major surgery to redo her knee. He strongly suggested a second opinion before we decided on surgery. Mom said she didn't want to go thru another surgery. Her shoulder was just eaten up with arthritis and her shoulder had dropped.
No pain pills touch the pain. They only made her dizzy and make her fall.
Mom had an orthopedic appointment on Thursday 11th, They showed me the eXray's of her knee and shoulders. The doctor said that it would be a major surgery to redo her knee. He strongly suggested a second opinion before we decided on surgery. Mom said she didn't want to go thru another surgery. Her shoulder was just eaten up with arthritis and her shoulder had dropped.
No pain pills touch the pain. They only made her dizzy and make her fall.
Sunday, August 7, 2011
Tuesday, July 26, 2011
Echo and Ultra Sound
Took Mom to Oklahoma city to get an Echo and Ultra Sound. All to find out what is going on with her.
Friday, July 1, 2011
Big Bad Wolf
Mom and I went to Garber to watch Joshua and Jennifer in the play "BIG BAD WOLF"
Josh was the WOLF!
It was really funny and the kids did such a fabulous job.
Josh was the WOLF!
It was really funny and the kids did such a fabulous job.
Tuesday, June 28, 2011
Mammogram / Bone Density Test
Dr. Moery had scheduled mom a mammogram and bone density test. She had never had either. With her arms so sore she had a really hard time to lift her arms up for the mammogram, let alone standing up for that long of a time.
Then they had to redo this at a later date due to some spots that were found.
Then they had to redo this at a later date due to some spots that were found.
Friday, June 17, 2011
Dr Ross
Kimi and I made an appointment with a Gietrics Dr that Kimi knew.
Mom really liked her. Dr Ross spent over an hour going over all of her. Then we had blood work and eXrays done.
Mom really liked her. Dr Ross spent over an hour going over all of her. Then we had blood work and eXrays done.
Monday, June 6, 2011
Mom Crying
Mom was sitting at the table crying. She said she didn't have any money in her checking account and that her checks were going to bounce. I took one look at her checkbook. I said "Mom where are your deposits?" She hadn't written any of the deposits in.
Friday, April 22, 2011
Texas for Easter
We headed to Texas. Mom had never been to see Kati's home. We had a really good time. Kati, Abigail and I took her to Belk. We just picked out clothes and shoes. Mom had such a good time. She had all of the clothes and she told everybody how we just kept loading up clothes that would look good on her.
Easter Sunday we went to church with Kati and her family. It was a new kind of service for Easter. It was a great time and Mom really loved the time she spent there.
Easter Sunday we went to church with Kati and her family. It was a new kind of service for Easter. It was a great time and Mom really loved the time she spent there.
Wednesday, April 20, 2011
Probate
Mom and went to the 1st Probate Court. The judge signed a petition so that mom could get an allowance until the funds are released.
Wednesday, April 13, 2011
Tuesday, April 5, 2011
Cade's Tball
Mom and I went to Cade's Tball game. I had a doctor appointment on Wednesday so Mom stayed all night with Kimi.
After my appointment I met them at PennSquare Mall and we all had pedicures and manicures.
After my appointment I met them at PennSquare Mall and we all had pedicures and manicures.
Friday, April 1, 2011
7 GrandKids
Front Row (L to R): Jodean and only grandson Tony
Back Row (L to R): Tianne, Torrie, Bengi, Kati, Kimi, Tennille
15 Great GrandKids
Jodean with her Great Grandchildren.
Front row (L to R): Cade, Brady, Callie, Carter
2nd row (L to R): Camden, Jennifer, Jodean, Ethan, Abigail, Briley
Back Row (L to R): Joshua, Jacob, Jennifer, Randa, Jaidan
not pictured: Drake
Wednesday, March 30, 2011
Dad Hospitalized
We had taken dad to hospital. I stayed with him over night. He was very restless. Pulled out his IV's. We talked about taking care of mom. I told him I loved him. Memories I will never forget.
Wednesday morning March 30, 2011 dad gave up the fight. It is never a good time and you are never ready, but he is definitely in a better place.
Grief is the price that we pay for love.
Tuesday, March 15, 2011
Mom the CareGiver
My mom and dad were married for 68 years.
Dad lived in Drummond and Mom lived in Waukomis. He would drive to Waukomis in his pickup that had so many lights on it that you could see him coming for miles. Dad joined the Air Force and spent WWII in London. When he got back to the states Mom got on a bus and rode to Neosho, MO to meet dad. They were married and they were so broke that all they could afford to eat was peanut butter. So the story was told. They had 2 children a boy Timothy and a girl Kathryn.
They lived a very good life together. Dad was a very hard working business man. He was a farmer and put himself thru electricians schooling and then worked as an electrician and evenings and weekends he farmed. Then he got into the horse racing and offshore oil drilling in the gulf of Mexico. They owned the Cattle Sale Barn and several acres of land.
Mom had taken care of her dad before he died. She took care of her mother before she died. Now I feel like it is my turn to take care of her.
Mom was always at home, taking care of her family and Dad's Aunt who raised him. Mom said as long as Lulu was alive she would have Thanksgiving and Christmas. She always had great dinners and Christmases.
Mom and Dad had spent several winters in Phoenix AZ. Right next to Camel Back Mountain. They had many friends in both places.
When dad quit going to the farms his health begin to decline. My father was diabetic and had been hospitalized several times for kidney failure. My mom took care of him, she did all the driving him to appointments and was always cleaning up after him. They would sit in their recliners and watch TV. They would go to Applebee's everyday for lunch. Then eat something small for super. Dad would never eat anything mom cooked. He liked crackers and peanut butter.
Mom was using a walker at this time, and having trouble with her knees.
Dad was always falling down and she would have to call someone to help pick him up. It was very hard on mom, but she stayed strong and made it thru those long months. She would call me and just cry, she didn't know what she was going to do with Dad.
Sunday, February 6, 2011
Mom's Mom and Dad
They married in October 09, 1910 in Sheridan, Oklahoma
Charles Ernest "Ernie" Rapp
born in Clay Center, Kansas
was a Sheriff of Waukomis
and he delievered propane for Jung Motors
Dessie Mae "Taylor" Rapp
born in Marceline, Missouri
was a housewife and raised 3 girls and 1 son
Lorriane
Ernestine
Jodean
Doug
Mom's Brother and Sisters
On February 6, 2011 mom lost her last sibling.
Mom's brother Doug Rapp DOB Feb 2, 1931 and passed Feb 6, 2011.
Her oldest sister Florence Lorraine DOB July 12, 1911 and passed in Dec 20, 1988
Her other sister Cora Ernestine DOB Feb 2, 1917 and passed in April 2009
Her mom DOB 12/1/1889 and DOD 4/2/1972
Her Dad DOB 9/8/1887 DOD 5/9/1961
There is a story about Aunt Ernestine - My mom wanted to see her sister. So we took off for Albuquerque, New Mexico. We arrived on a Wednesday and visited all afternoon with her. Mom and Ernestine sitting with their feet on their walkers holding hands. It was very touching. They were really glad they got to see each other.
We left and returned home.
Saturday they called and told us that Aunt Ernestine had died. I am so glad that I took the time to take my mother out to see her sister for 1 last time.
Tuesday, February 1, 2011
Commitment
Now it is my turn, my pleasure and my commitment to be there for her and with her, whatever it takes.
I'm just here!
READ this beautiful blog: I'm Just Here
This is the blog that is written by a very good friends wife. He sent me a link and I thought I need to write a blog for my mother. The writing will not be as beautiful as the ones on "Remembering for Mother" blog, but it will still let the family read of my adventures in taking care of my Mom..
This is the blog that is written by a very good friends wife. He sent me a link and I thought I need to write a blog for my mother. The writing will not be as beautiful as the ones on "Remembering for Mother" blog, but it will still let the family read of my adventures in taking care of my Mom..
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